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It’s not you, it’s me!  This famous quip is ordinarily used to soften bad news such as break-ups and such.  However, it is actually a Biblically true statement.  Matthew 7:1 says that we should not judge, because when we do, we are judged.  Broken down into human psychological terms, when we find fault in others it is usually an indication that we are experienced in those same faults.

We do the same thing when we blame God for things not going the way we want them in our lives.  We say things like “how could a good God do this or that”.  We often move farther and farther away from an active relationship with Him because on some level we are disappointed in Him.  We might as well be saying, “It’s not you, it’s me!”  

It is so much easier to blame the other party in any relationship rather than take responsibility for our own actions or lack of actions.  Now in human relationships it is at times the other person’s limitations that lead to moving away.  However, with God, it is always our misunderstanding or poor perspective that leads us to doubts, apathy, and eventually moving slowly away from the relationship.

If our theology, or understanding of God, is in good order, then we would understand our need to run to Him everyday with everything we have.  When our understanding of God is lazy and self -serving, then we tend to project our brokenness onto Him and He has no chance in the relationship.

How is your theology?  Are you spending time in worship, the Bible, and prayer in order to get to know Him?  Have you given Him a chance to show you who His is?   If not, then you may be missing out on the greatest relationship you have ever known.  If that is the case, then the saying is actually a true statement…It’s not Him, it’s you.